The lifeboat called “SS Self-Acceptance”

A few weeks ago I did an exercise from Mark Silver's called "finding your Jewel". This exercise is about finding out what is your unique gift in this world. In business there are thousands of massage therapists, life coaches bloggers, for example, but what is it about you that will attract particular clients.

Mark believes that  what our heart most deeply yearns, or thirsts, for is the very same quality that our clients yearn or thirst for.

So, following his guided mp3 I sensed into what my heart yearns for. What came first were all the qualities that I am told are my strengths and that help my clients; clarity, insight, support, intuition.

Then, inviting still more. Going into the more vulnerable heart-felt space the word acceptance came. I yearn for acceptance; just as I am and just as I unfold and grow in the light of life's experiences. Then, inviting still more I knew I hit upon a deep inner truth when the word trust came.

At first, my mind says, "Of course you want trust, who doesn't want trust, how you you live in a world without trust! Obvious!"

Then, more came.  I yearn to trust my own heart. I yearn to trust my own judgement enough to be able to hear how other's experience life. I yearn to trust my own reactions and emotions. Not to be swept away by them but to sense into what they are trying to tell me and paying attention to that responsively. Now I know when I have touched in to something essentially true for me when a sheen of tears come and my heart turns. TRUST & ACCEPTANCE.

Now, I have been sitting on this post for a few weeks. Not quite sure what comes next and yet sensing its not quite finished either. And today I saw a quote in Davina’s blog Shades of Crimson.

“Heaven and Earth can never meet as long as you hold even one person outside of your heart.” from Devrah Laval, The Magic Doorway into the Divine.

Davina asked herself “When a person can’t even hold themselves in their heart, how could they possibly attract their dreams?”

When a person can’t even hold themselves in their heart, then what?

How many people do you know who can truly hold themselves in their heart? All of themselves? In Davina’s blog her life coach asks why should she be in a lifeboat if her ship is sinking.  This brought Davina closer to the qualities she admires about herself. What about who would, of all your the parts of yourself, would you let on to the lifeboat? Would you accept all of you? Or would you turn parts away? Or would you not even notice some parts that need to get on?

And then who would be left on the lifeboat? Would that actually be you at all? Or just the you you have told to be by your culture, your parents, your school teachers, priests, counsellors, and your inner critic to name just the obvious sources of advice and admonition we receive as we grow up. Would you really be living if all of you didn’t come on board.

I guess this begs the question; what do our shadow parts bring to us as a gift? Do they bring energy, vulnerability, compassion? What is the jewel hidden inside our judgement of them?

When you can’t even hold all of yourself in your heart, then what for all of your life?

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